I get asked this question a lot. I always answer ….Why not?? I know , that is really not an answer, it’s just another question. But isn’t it a great question??
I know there are many travel bloggers who have great reasons and answers for …Why Travel Solo????
People lose who they are as they travel through life, as a child we are so carefree, we do not think of fear or safety. When you watch a child playing, you will see what I mean. They don’t care what they are wearing. They don’t care if they are running around naked on the beach or in the back yard, they are all about one thing, been happy. Ok, I do not recommend as adults we should run around naked, so please do not do that and say but she said so.
When the child turns 10, you see a big difference, because now that child is going to school. Society is teaching that child what to do, what to say, what you should look like. The peer pressure to be part of a group or to be accepted in a group is huge and if you don’t do what society expects from you, you are classed as a Loser or weird. We all give in and change who we are to get validation from others.
After School, college, university, we go through more changes, we get a job, we get married, we start a family and the list goes on and on. I know some of you are reading this and saying, ok what is your point, this is life…… Yes you are right. This is life and my point is, We lose our inner child, our individuality and our inner happiness. Yes we are happy with our lives but we have totally lost ourselves.
We don’t even know who we are by the time we turn 40. When I ask people, Who are you? They define themselves as some ones daughter, some ones wife, some ones mother OR they define themselves by they job title or social states. Try answering this question and email me your answer. Who am I? It is hard to answer this question isn’t it? We don’t want people to think we are selfish or come across as self observed.
We only get one life. It is our responsibilities to live our life to the fullest. Been someones daughter, wife, mother is a very small part. It’s not all you should live for. I know so many beautiful woman, intelligent woman, educated woman, who spend all their life been a wife and a mother. This is very rewarding I am sure of it. But I am asking you to take time out, TO BE YOU, to find passion for that one thing, that gives your life purpose, while you are busy raising a family. Your husband and your children will respect you and appreciate you more.
The sad part of life is when those children grow up and leave home. You will find yourself sitting around, with nothing to do, no one needs you any more and all you have is the memories. Slowly and surely the depression kicks in and your emotions are on a roller coaster ride.
There are more people with Depression / mental health than any other disease. There is my WHY….. why travel solo. Give yourself time TO BE YOU. Travelling solo teachers you to learn and to grow. You meet new people, some you will love and some you will learn from. You learn about different cultures and languages. You get time to listen to your inner voice and you find your inner peace.
My favourite thing to do when I am travelling solo is cooking classes. Each country I visit, I do a cooking class. The flavours and the technique, the reasons why they do things the way they do …… and the stories behind each dish are all experiences that will stay with me for ever.
My other must do when I am travelling solo is learn the local language. It is fascinating, how many people in the world, speak 5 or 6 languages or more. We only speak English and we think we are superior to everyone. I found my brain is more alive now then it ever was when I was at school, college and university.
It’s very important to have BALANCE in your life, I am not saying or encouraging people to drop everything or leave your family or run away from your life. I am encouraging every female out there to take a week or two or three off a year for yourself. Grow and create a better and stronger you, A you that all your family and friends are going to respect and best of all, A you that you are proud of.
I would love to hear your stories, please feel free to share them with me…………… Happy Travelling