ME MYSELF AND I
………On a Journey called Solo Travel to Self Discvery
Do you know for a middle-aged female traveler to travel solo is socially not accepted in today’s society? It’s fawned upon like there is something wrong with people like me. I must be the biggest loser for traveling alone. I know its funny, world has come so far, from the conventional expectations of doing things in the right way. Right Way????? … Yes …. Go to school. Get a degree. Get a job. Get married. Buy a house. Buy a car. Have kids. Go on family holidays. All these are the right things. Or is it????
Who made these rules? Who decided what is right and what is wrong? Why people judge others if you are not following THE rule??? Why is it wrong for a woman to travel alone? Why is it wrong for a woman to be single? Why is it wrong for a woman to earn more money than a man? Why is it wrong for a woman to drive a V8 car?
So here’s the thing. All my life I lived in this so-called “right” world. Did everything by the rule. Then one day, I woke up with this feeling. There must be more to life than just this ……., As it turns out … I was right. I want to live my life my way, by my rules. I do not need to worry about what people think of me or if I am accepted in this so-called “right” world.
Straggling to keep up with the demards of family, and society, I prayed for a way out. I prayed for a light at the end of the tunel.
Being a mother, being a wife, being a daughter, being a business owner, being a friend, being a sister…. all this was my identity. I really needed to find the true “ME”, the me before the school told me I am stupid, the me before the socitey told me I am not indian enough, I am not western enough, I do not belong. I do not fit in, I am not good enough and I will never amount to anything.
I made my life so busy that I would not have to deal with all the negative and toxic things in my life. We do this with out thinking we are doing it. We plan our days, we pack it with activities. Wake up, go for a run, make breakfast, get the kids ready, make lunch, get yourself ready, drop the kids to school, go to work, work all day, pick kids up from school, run around doing after school activities, get home, clean, cook, help kids with homework and then you do it all over again next day and the day after that. Now there is nothing wrong with this but why is it we don’t put “time out” or “Me time” in this busy schedule. Why are we so scared to be alone with our thoughts?
It is not acceptable to travel the world alone as an older female.
It is not acceptable to leave your family behind.
It is not acceptable to spend time on Self Love – what self love, that is so selffish …. I just got sick of listening to the judgement and the opinion … So I stopped listening to others and started listing to myself.
I am embarking on journey called Self Discovery. Join me if you are ready to give yourself the best gift – a honest, loving and accepting relationship with yourself.
#Travelquote: I travel not to escape life, but for life not to escape me 🙂
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