Simple answer to this question is YES and YES…….. The reason I wanted to start blogging about Travelling Alone was to inspire people and to teach people how to travel alone and how to like it ….. in fact to love it. In general to be alone is hard, its probably the hardest thing but it is NOT necessarly a bad thing. We humans relate being alone with pain and suffering to an extent that it makes us depressed. Depression is the biggest killer ……. causes all sorts of cancer and illness. I am on a mission to teach people that alone you can be peaceful, content and happy. If we work on this we can end loneliness / depression …..
As humans we put all our happiness in other peoples hands, we spend a lot of time making sure that we get approvable from others. We spend a lot of time making sure we look good from outside. We change who we are so people like us. We pretend to be someone else so we get accepted in social groups. We totally forget we need to look good inside, feel good inside. We need to be happy with in ourselves and we need to love who we are.
When we are…In our 20’s – we are ten foot tall and bullet proof, millions of friends and full on social life.
In our 30’s we are so busy running around trying to live up to society expectation, buy everything money can buy, big house, big car, big boat and start family.
In our 40’s we crave for some me time, all we do is run around after kids and work.
In our 50’s we find the big house is empty, kids all grown up and gone, had enough of working same old job
You finally notice you have spent your whole life working and raising a family. Now they are all grown up, time to let them go. Now is when the loneliness starts slowly creeping up. You did not make time for friends because you were alway busy with your family or you have friends but they are busy doing their own things. You have a partner but without kids you don’t have anything to talk about. Some might not even have partners, divorced or widowed. What happens now…….. you feel alone and you don’t like this feeling.
Going out for coffee alone is scary. Have you ever been for a coffee by yourself? I do it all the time…… because I have conditioned my belief of been alone as peaceful, content and happy. But if you are one of those who have conditioned your belief that been alone causes pain and suffering….. travelling alone will be very lonely and scary.
Good news is we are in charge of our conditions, our beliefs and let me tell you this, once you make that shift you will never be happier. This does not mean you do not need friends or ditch your family. I encourage you to make new friends and keep in touch with your family. I have heaps of friends and a very big family….. but my happiness does not depend on if they have time for me ….. because I love my own company.
Travelling is my passion and ending loneliness / Depression is my mission ……. share your travel experience ………… Travelling thought life with Me Myself and I …. 🙂